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What Is the Biggest Obstacle to Perfect Health?

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The biggest obstacle to perfect health is the mind. iStock/fizkes

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In this series, I’ve talked about the importance of nourishing your body, healing your gut, managing stress, getting enough sleep, and embracing other aspects of ancestral health. But which of the nine steps to perfect health is the most important? If you’re a nutritionist, personal trainer, or health coach, which step should you ask your clients to prioritize if they want to attain “perfect health”?

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My first response is that, despite the title of the series, there’s no such thing as perfect health. One of the few things we can be certain of in this life is that we are all dying from the moment we’re born. If such a thing as perfect health existed, and we could attain it, we’d be immortal.

However, we can all take steps toward perfect health and guide clients in that direction, and that’s why I wrote the series. Among those nine steps, it’s impossible to say which is most important because the answer will vary from person to person, from client to client.

Attaining perfect health is impossible—but by noticing and addressing our blind spots, we can greatly improve our day-to-day well-being and help others do the same. Check out this article for more about perfect health. #optimalhealth #changeagent #chriskresser

What Is the Biggest Obstacle to Perfect Health?

Most of us want black and white answers to questions like this because they provide the illusion of safety and certainty.

We want the answer to be the same for everyone because it’s easier to follow a system or a prescription than it is to find our own way. And as tribal animals, we humans like to be part of a group. Hence the power of social movements, whether we’re talking about the ancestral health lifestyle or another popular topic.

So, while I can’t tell you what the most important of the nine steps is for you, your friends, or your clients, I can tell you the biggest obstacle to perfect health for most people you’ll encounter: their own mind.

For Your Clients, a Chain Is Only as Strong as Its Weakest Link

What I’ve observed in myself, in working with patients, and in almost 20 years of meditation practice is that each of us has a significant blind spot or area in our lives where we lack awareness and insight. As a simple analogy, let’s call this a weak link in our chain and assume that the chain represents optimum health.

Most of us invest the majority of our time and energy strengthening the parts of our chain that are already strong. These stronger links are where we feel comfortable and confident, where we can operate safely within the bounds of who we think we are.

And this is the root of the problem. No matter how much we strengthen what is already strong, if there’s still a weak link, the chain as a whole isn’t stronger. And it can easily break.

This dilemma describes the situation of many clients who seek out health coaching. They might eat well and lead fulfilling, low-stress lives, but a lack of regular exercise is starting to catch up to them. Or perhaps they’re already emphasizing nutrient-dense foods and maintaining healthy, close relationships, but years of getting too little sleep is causing major health problems.

It makes sense to focus on strengthening the client’s weak link, whatever it may be, instead of building up and polishing the links that are already strong—but engaging in that focus is much, much harder to do. Why? Because it usually requires coaxing them to step out of their concept of self and challenge their very identity. We’re asking them to grow, evolve, make major lifestyle changes, and shine the light of awareness into the dark corners of their psyche. As you likely know, this isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s not as simple as asking them to add a supplement or eliminate nightshades from their diet. It’s a true challenge. It’s a life’s work.

Meet Joe Paleo and His Weak Link

To make this even clearer, let’s take a hypothetical person: Joe Paleo. He was a high school and college athlete and has been interested in nutrition and fitness his entire life. However, after taking on a new, high-stakes job with an investment banking firm, he’s no longer making healthy choices. He’s now less active, eating more than usual, and feeling pretty crummy.

So he starts to tweak his diet. Is dairy the issue? Should he add white rice or be completely grain free? How many carbs? What about intermittent fasting? He also tries some new supplements and makes adjustments to his exercise routine. He even seeks out professional help from a nutritionist and a personal trainer, but Joe still doesn’t feel better.

Why isn’t Joe getting better? Because he’s just strengthening the parts of his chain that are already strong—and ignoring the weak links. In Joe’s case, it may be that stress management is the weak link. But his first challenge in addressing that is that he’s not even fully aware that the increased stress from his new job is a problem.

This is where our own minds become the biggest obstacle in our quest for perfect health: we often can’t see what our weakest links are because, by definition, those are areas where we lack awareness or insight.

But even once we become aware of what our weak links are, it’s still difficult to work with them. We’re fighting against a lifetime of conditioned beliefs about who we are and what we’re supposed to do. In Joe Paleo’s case, perhaps he was raised in a family that didn’t value rest or pleasure but rather placed a high premium on success and accomplishment. This makes it hard for him to carve out time to relax.

My Weakest Links

My own weak links are pleasure and fun. I’ve got the diet dialed in. Exercise? No problem. I’m even committed to stress management. But what often falls through the cracks for me is making time for pleasure and fun.

I know this is the weak link in my chain because the periods of my life where I’ve emphasized it have been the periods when I’ve enjoyed the best health. But lately, as I’ve been immersed in running a busy private practice, teaching, launching products, and undertaking the day-to-day business of family life, I haven’t made much time for pleasure or fun. And my health has suffered as a result.

My commitment to myself is to try to do one purely pleasurable or fun activity each day. Some days I’m more successful than others, and I always have to look out for the tendency to fall back into my old pattern.

If Your Clients Want Perfect Health, They’ll Need Your Support

If you want to help your clients move closer to perfect health, you’ll need to help them deal with their own weakest link. Often times, it’s the area they don’t value, the place they feel most uncomfortable or uncertain.

And just a side note: I shared with you what my weakest link was. Though I was still able to help clients and colleagues alike, deep down, I knew I had to address my own weak link. Before you can give fully to your clients and others, take stock—are there weak links in your own chain that you should address?

Of course, addressing a client’s weakest link is often easier said than done. Part of what we teach students enrolled in the ADAPT Health Coach Training Program is to meet clients where they are. Most people don’t like being told that they have a weak link in their lifestyle. They tend to feel unengaged and even resentful when someone else directs the process to change their health.

Think back to our example, Joe Paleo: If he came to you for health advice and you offered a strict plan for addressing his blindspot—stress management—you would probably be met with quite a bit of resistance. Joe might not even be ready to admit that he has an issue handling the stress of his new job, and it’s likely he wouldn’t feel motivated to try incorporating stress relief techniques into his lifestyle.

Joe might be better served by someone using strategies like motivational interviewing to empower him to come up with his own strategy to improve his health and support him throughout his journey. Filling that need and offering that support is a major reason why I think health coaches are essential in the fight against chronic disease.

  1. Listened to your podcast with Doc Fermento and then inked to your website. Thanks for all the information! I follow a fairly good Paleo type food plan, have weaned myself off insulin. Sugar levels stable now. Now the concern is the statins, but I have had a quadruple bypass and getting off the statins worries me. Have lost about 30 lbs with about 15 to go. It is the energy and clear headedness that I am amazed about. Didn’t realize I had been feeling so lousy prior to Paleo!

  2. Great article Chris, a big slap in the face for me.
    Been trying to shift psoriasis for years. I focused exclusively on altering my diet in every possible way hoping that one little variation would create miraculous results. You can guess how that turned out.

    Everywhere I looked stress was quoted as one of the main aggravators but I was blind to it being relevant to me. It’s only now I look back I can see how I completely neglected the play/social/stress side of it.

    On the (huge) upside it did lead me to ‘paleo’ living and as a result I am now stronger, leaner, fitter and more energetic then I have ever been. And this is me for life.

  3. I have a question for you regarding the consumption of red meat. If we are geneticall programmed to eat a certain food then would it not follow that we would have an affinity for that food and be particularly amenable to it after consumption.

    I ask this because for the first time in sevaral months I ate some lamb today and afterwards felt uneasy, heavy and uncomfortable inside and unable to concentrate. If a food is inherently good for an individual should it not follow that we would respond well to it regardless of how long ago it was we consumed it?

    Thanks for your help!

    • There are a number of factors that determine one’s affinity and reaction to foods. Genetics play a role, but gut health and one’s microbiome are arguably much more significant.

  4. Fabulous post! I couldn’t agree more. I’d say pleasure/fun are often my wink links as well. It always feels like the “to-do” list is heavily weighted and the fun gets scooted off to the side for another day. Not always, of course, by too often. I just found your site today and am loving all I’m reading. Thanks!

  5. Boy Chris, you really hit the nail on the head here! We are too good at avoiding the things which are hardest to change so we fool ourselves into thinking we are creating change by continuing to tweak our “strong links”. I just experienced a paradigm shift! 🙂
    Definitely going to strengthen my weak link of pleasure/fun. Thanks!

  6. Great quotes from the Dali Lama and others. In terms of attaining “perfection”, I dont think anyone would argue its good to have goals but the tone here is we should “mind the gap” when it comes to being satisfied with progress toward these goals, or our ideal. This echoes what others have blogged here about being content with the present, and not stressed by the “gap” between where you are and where you want to be.

  7. From years, we know that there is link between our personality and diseases. That said, a healthy mind for a healthy body. So everybody have to be aware of their personal behavior like emotions and the benefit of being happy and should try to make a peace living. An old tip says: by doing exercises you can have a Healthy Body and a Healthy Mind. However, it depends on how we take things into action! 🙂

  8. I forgot to add my weakest link – Exercise! My excuse is really lame so no comments from the peanut gallery please (unless you have a great solution). I don’t like washing my hair everyday because it’s hard on it. Working out daily means sweaty hair and having to wash it every day.

    • Is there some reason you have to do formal exercise every day?

      I just recently checked out the original Callanetics book from the library and will probably buy it. My stepmom had it when I was growing up. The movements of the exercises are very small and precise. You might break a sweat and you might not–and apparently, you get a lot of return for those small, precise movements.

      But just doing housework counts as exercise, far as I’m concerned. One thing I think a lot of Paleo/Primal diet folks fail to realize or remember is that real “primal” people don’t bother with a formal exercise program–just doing the stuff they do every day keeps their bodies healthy. Think about ways you could un-automate some of your regular daily tasks and do more of the work yourself. Sometimes I think the Amish had the right idea.

      • Hi Dana,

        I guess there isn’t a reason I have to formal exercise every day, but I do know I feel better when doing “something”. A friend introduced me to T-Tapp (Theresa Tapp http://www.t-tapp.com) and it is something that can be done in as short as 15 minutes a day. I agree about the Amish as in a daily activity they get their physical exercise, sunshine and fresh air! Thanks for the response!

  9. As a medical resident, my weakest links are by far stress/management and sleep. The unpredictable nature of my schedule and frequent overnight call/shift work not only disturbs sleep but causes stress due to the loss of control over my own time. It’s unfortunate that while we are training to care for people’s health, we sabotage our own in such a profound way. I realize that some people are less affected by these stressors, but I have had a very hard time. And while I try to maintain some semblance of a workout schedule and good nutriton, I have gained bodyfat that will not go away! I’m the quintessential picture of the chronically elevated cortisol person. I am hoping I don’t do too much damage to my body before my training is over (6 months and counting)!

  10. Really awesome article Chris.

    Putting this article at the end of the 9 steps as a kind of follow up in its self empisizes the concept of stepping back and looking at our selves as a whole. You further suggest the idea by its actual message which is to know your self, as its a process of stepping back and observeing. It makes me think of my favorite Aristotle quote “Knowing yourself is the begining of all wisdom”. You make a good point here especially to this particular audience. Most likely the people following this blog are allready following and or working towards better health, through diet and excercise. And this is not their weakest link. This article in particular gives us a unique (to most paleo blogs) and powerful idea to ponder with the real goal of knowing ourselves enough to know what our weakest link is and then working on it…now what is my weakest link? I think my weakest link is being happy now versus being happy when.

    with Gratitude

    -R

  11. My weakest link is not getting enough sleep. I know the importance for overall health, especially the adrenals, but its easier said than done (as I write this comment after midnight!). Great article!

    • Definitely sleep for me, and exercise to an extent as well. I’m a night bird trying to change my bio-clock to the traditional day shift. I keep relapsing back.

  12. thanks for another enlightening article! my weak links are definitely stress/pleasure related. i’m a serious intellectual introvert by nature and often feel overwhelmed by world events as well as daily life stress. so many times i’ve been told i’m too serious and/or too sensitive, i definitely need to work on “lightening up”, without making it feel like work! a bit of an oxymoron it seems.

  13. I like your approach and the first thing I need is the 9 steps.
    For my profile, here’s the initial info: I’m 92, widowed January 2010, have 3 adult children, wonderful family relationship, one grandson, 2 granddaughters, 1 great granddaughter.
    I’m a retired electronic engineer, still maintain contact with other retirees. No longer work out regularly but still ski (lower level) and bicycle ride.
    More may follow in time.
    Regards, Browny1

  14. I like your approach and the first thing I need is the 9 steps.
    For my profile, here’s the initial info: I’m 92, widowed January 2010, have 3 adult children, wonderful family relationship, one grandson, 2 granddaughters, 1 great granddaughter.
    I’m a retired electronic engineer, still maintain contact with other retirees. No longer work out regularly but still ski (lower level) and bicycle ride.
    More may follow in time.
    Regards, Browny1

  15. The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered:

    “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money in order to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future. He lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

    • Great quote, maybe some of these can fit in as well….

      “There’s lots of people in this world who spend so much time watching their health that they haven’t the time to enjoy it.” ~ Josh Billings

      “As a people, we have become obsessed with Health. There is something fundamentally, radically unhealthy about all this. We do not seem to be seeking more exuberance in living as much as staving off failure, putting off dying. We have lost all confidence in the human body.” ~Lewis Thomas, 1979

      “What some call health, if purchased by perpetual anxiety about diet, isn’t much better than tedious disease.” ~ George Dennison Prentice, 1860

      and wrap it all up with a little humor:
      “Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in hospitals dying of nothing.” ~ Redd Foxx

  16. My weak link – RSS feed subscriptions to 14 paleo blogs, 6 WAP blogs, 6 GAPS blogs and 16 general health blogs.

    No wonder my head is permanantly in a spin when it comes to treating my chronic health issues.

  17. Thank you for this post! I do a monthly “task” list of things I want to focus on each month, and I am going to look hard to find my weak link – and not look at the food as the weak link.